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Are You a Boy or Are You a Girl?


Synopsis


'A lovely, sensitive, much-needed book that helps all children ask the big questions about identity and gender.' - Juno Dawson, author of This Book is Gay

Tiny loves costumes! Tiny likes to dress up as an animal, or a doctor, or a butterfly. Tiny also prefers not to tell other children whether they are a boy or a girl. Tiny's friends don't mind, but when Tiny starts a new school their new friends can't help asking one question:

"Tiny, are you a boy or are you a girl?"

This brightly illustrated book will open a dialogue with children aged 3+ about gender diversity in a fun and creative way. Featuring a gender neutral protagonist, the book imparts an important message about identity and being who you want to be. Tiny's story will assist parents, family and teachers in giving children the space to express themselves fully, explore different identities and have fun at the same time.

Sarah Savage (author), Fox Fisher (artist)

Summary

Chapter 1: The Gender Binary

This chapter introduces the concept of the gender binary, a social construct that divides people into two distinct categories: male and female. The author discusses the history of the gender binary and its impact on society.

Example: The blue/pink color scheme commonly used for baby clothes and toys reinforces the gender binary by associating blue with boys and pink with girls.

Chapter 2: Gender Identity

This chapter explores the concept of gender identity, an individual's internal sense of being male, female, or non-binary. The author discusses the fluidity and diversity of gender identity.

Example: A person who was assigned male at birth but identifies as female may transition socially and medically to align their body with their true gender identity.

Chapter 3: Gender Expression

This chapter focuses on gender expression, the way in which individuals express their gender identity through clothing, behavior, and other means. The author discusses the importance of self-expression and the challenges faced by gender-nonconforming individuals.

Example: A boy who likes to wear dresses and play with dolls may be seen as breaking gender norms and may face bullying or discrimination.

Chapter 4: Gender Stereotypes

This chapter examines gender stereotypes, the preconceived notions about the characteristics and roles associated with each gender. The author discusses the harmful effects of gender stereotypes and encourages individuals to challenge and dismantle them.

Example: The stereotype that women are emotional and men are rational limits individuals' ability to express their full range of emotions and can create barriers in relationships.

Chapter 5: Gender Discrimination

This chapter discusses the various forms of gender discrimination, including workplace inequality, gender-based violence, and the denial of rights and opportunities for certain genders. The author provides examples of how gender discrimination manifests in society.

Example: Women in leadership positions may face bias and discrimination, making it harder for them to advance their careers.

Chapter 6: Gender and Intersectionality

This chapter explores the intersectionality of gender with other social identities, such as race, class, and sexuality. The author discusses how multiple identities can shape an individual's experiences of discrimination and privilege.

Example: A black, transgender woman may face unique challenges that are the result of her gender identity, race, and gender expression.

Chapter 7: Changing the Conversation

This chapter calls for a shift in the way we talk about gender. The author encourages readers to use inclusive language, respect the diversity of gender identities, and challenge gender stereotypes.

Example: Using the pronoun "they" for individuals who identify as non-binary or genderqueer allows for a more inclusive and respectful conversation.

Chapter 8: Creating a More Just World

This chapter concludes the book by emphasizing the importance of creating a more just and equitable world for all genders. The author discusses the work that still needs to be done to dismantle gender discrimination and foster inclusivity.

Example: LGBTQ+ advocacy organizations play a vital role in fighting for the rights and visibility of gender-diverse individuals.